By .; email@example.com/ facebook.com/Debra Fletcher(fwsinc)
Everybody On Top is a ten week installment helping independent artists identify alternative paths to a mega career destination. Previous articles were Path 1: Accountability – Take responsibility for your actions and Path 2: Discipline – Working for what you want. This week’s article will focus on Path 3: Acceptance.
Path 3. Acceptance – Acknowledging the inevitable.
Accept that you as an artist can not change the industry protocol. That is not your job. Accepting this will help to tackle your career challenges. Freedom and personal power are unleashed when you practice acceptance. Practicing acceptance requires three things. They are: (1) Recognize what you have the power to change. (2) Recognize some things are not in your power to change. (3) Recognize that there are some things you will never be able to control. Every moment you waste attempting to do otherwise is a moment spent in destroying your dreams. It sounds simple. It is not. We would all be at the top of our game if life were that simple.
Most often it is the most simplistic things that destroy careers, opportunities and relationships. Acknowledge that which you can not change. That does not mean that bend to the presence of defeat. It understands there are circumstances and influences that are simply out of our control. This does not mean that we are required to expand any of our energy, resources, or time
Unfortunately, attempting to do any of the three principles requires that our emotional responses take a back seat to our logic. This is a biggie in our “Me first, I’m entitled, I want it now” kind of world. The ability to grasp the simple and move on is an invaluable tool in our personal arsenal of talent. It’s an elusive weapon that uses our emotions as ammunition. This weapon is deadly for even the most talented among us.
Sometimes circumstances are so undesirable that prayer is the only thing that can get you through. Those in the twelve step programs do the infamous “Serenity Prayer.” God grant me the serenity. . . . It is also used by some of us who have never been in a twelve step program. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t consider the option before we meltdown.
The Serenity Prayer alone has been credited with saving millions from the carnage of emotional that coming from being out of control. It doesn’t require any specific spiritual denomination. It only requirement is that you store it in your arsenal and use it. Also know that stepping away form an emotionally charged situation makes you smart. Being smart you will help you to remember what is really important:
• Everyone is not going to like your work – That is their loss.
• Every audience is entitled to your best performance – Always be prepared.
• Every successful artist has been the beneficiary of someone else’s sacrifice – Pay it forward.
Understand that focusing your resources on being the best cooperative reliable artist you can be will get you further than annihilating the goodwill of others, someone’s reputation or career opportunities.